My Story / Background
When people ask me why I do what I do, I don’t know where to begin. I know I love it. Helping and encouraging. Making a difference that lasts. Sharing the deep satisfaction and joy of parents as they overcome one challenge after another. It’s a perfect fit for me.
Made a decision
In 2011 I decided to actually do something about my passion and concern for families and my desire to make a difference. I have always been fascinated by how profoundly parenting affects our lives, our families, and our communities. Every little improvement in our parenting can make a huge difference. And those changes last lifetimes. I decided, one way or another, I was going to help parents.
A year of research
That year, I read over 50 parenting books and countless articles. I focused on what it takes to raise grateful and happy children with good and kind hearts, strong and dependable character, and effective life skills. I skipped over all the parenting trends and fads, magical shortcuts, wishful thinking , and political or social agendas. I sorted through all that endless advice so busy parents would not have to. I stayed focused on the essentials. On how all the pieces fit together. On what actually works in real life. Raising four very different children of my own gave me a clue and a good start, but the learning never ends.
Tried it out
I started parent coaching friends and acquaintances for free in my spare time. I needed practice with real parents and real children. I needed to find out if I was any good at this. The feedback was overwhelmingly positive.
I also started teaching parenting classes and an all-day workshop when opportunities opened up. Once again, the feedback was overwhelmingly positive. In one all-day workshop the thirty-four parents refused to take the two morning breaks. We worked straight through til lunch.
By now I knew this was the career for me.
Writing a book
Parents kept asking for written versions of my material. I worked closely with four separate groups of parents to see if my writing was good enough. They were very encouraging and surprisingly honest. One group, “If you can get your whole book to be that kind of useful, we won’t put it on the shelf next to all our other parenting books. We will actually use it.” I accepted that challenge right then and there. I am still typing away.
Establishing a practice
I have loved working with parents and developing my approach as time allowed, but now it’s time to build a real practice.
On August 1st, 2019 I opened an office in Westport, CT. I built this website. I am making my way through the social media and digital advertising part so parents can find me. In the fall of 2019, I will begin a few regularly scheduled classes.
Finish my book in late 2019 or early 2020. ( I am one of the slowest writers on the planet.)
Get relevant scenarios on video to use as teaching tools. Actually seeing what we are talking about and then breaking it down moment by moment can be a huge help.
Video the best of the best classes and workshops and make them available on-line for everyone.
*I graduated from the University of Northern Colorado Summa Cum Laude with a BA in English with psychology and writing minors. (I was only one psychology course short of a double major in English and Psychology.) I have also taken six relevant graduate level courses.