Parenting Classes

New parenting class is starting
January 2027

Class will be held in the greater Raleigh, NC area.

The Confident & Effective Parent: A 2-Hour Hands-On Workshop

Turn conflict and frustration into real progress and better relationships

This class is my answer to a challenge I gave myself: If I only had two hours, what would make the biggest possible difference in a parent’s confidence and effectiveness?

With that challenge in mind, I carefully selected only the most effective and essential lessons from my work with parents since 2012..

Expect a busy two hours. We will focus on the face-to-face moments with your children. We will be learning and doing: real skill development, real practice, and creating your own action plan for when you get home.

My personal goal: You’ll leave class with the foundation you need to become significantly more confident and effective.

When I coach parents with this same approach, these are three of the most common changes:

  • Parents become more relaxed, confident, and intentional.

  • Parent-child relationships become more enjoyable.

  • Workloads shift: parents do less and children do more.

What to Expect

Hour One: Knowledge & Understanding

  • The basics: What do our children need from us to move forward?

  • Responsibility: How do we get our children to take responsibility for their own behavior, attitudes, and choices?

  • Accountability: What does loving and effective accountability look like?

  • Consequences: How do we set up consequences so they teach, train, and develop instead of punish?

  • Preparation: What should we be doing between challenging interactions so the next time goes better?

Hour Two: Effective Action

  • Start mastering three essential skills: observation, self-regulation, and sustainable confidence.  Effective action is almost impossible without all three. 

  • Analyze real-world scenarios: Break down video clips of everyday parenting situations together. What did you see? How did you immediately react? What should happen next?

  • Practice with support: Gain hands-on practice with helpful feedback—something you can’t do alone at home.

Your Personal Workbook

You won’t just leave with ideas; you’ll leave with a tangible roadmap:

  • Your personal plan: During both hours, you will take notes on your current challenges and apply what you’re learning.  By the end of class you will have created your own action plan.

  • Extra content: Supporting information and guides we won’t have time to cover in class, ready for when you need them.

  • A valuable reference: Class information, your notes, and your action plan in one place, to keep you on track long after class ends.

You’re Ready for This Class If…

  1. You’re stuck in a loop. You know what you’re doing isn’t working well, and you’re ready to walk away from daily power struggles and reactive discipline.

  2. You second-guess yourself. You feel unsure in hard moments, or you lose confidence when your first approach falls flat.

  3. You want tools, not just theory. You need concrete, hands-on strategies and a personal action plan you can start using right away—without committing to a multi-week course.

Think of this class as a fresh start. You’ll walk away with new skills, renewed confidence, and your own next-steps plan.

I will update this page when I have the actual times and dates for this class. At that point, you can sign up by clicking on any “Scheduling” button. I am planning on presenting this class once a month. *If you want to be put on the waiting list, email me at james@lovingandeffective.com.


This class brings together parents from both secular and Christian tracks, so it’s taught without faith-specific language. Nothing in the class is at odds with a Christian perspective. We will spend the time on practical, hands-on parenting skills. For faith-integrated support, sign up for parent coaching.

***I am looking for 12 parents who would like to participate in a “dress rehearsal” for this class. It will be scheduled for early January 2027 and be half-price. If you are interested, please email me at james@lovingandeffective.com,
and I will give you the details.***

“I found Mr. Shaver’s parenting workshop to be so insightful and encouraging. . . . He presented his material with an ease and humor which set the tone for the entire workshop. . . Something I would recommend for all parents to attend”
— Catherine M.