Testimonials

James was a Godsend to our family, he was so easy to talk to and so friendly.  We connected with him straight away and felt like no one could have helped us as much. We have definitely seen a huge difference in the level of peace in our home and how we handle conflicts. We continue to work on all that we learned because it does take time to change bad habits (yes, most of the time we are the ones that need to change, we discovered.) We definitely feel like we are on the right path now. I couldn’t recommend James highly enough, he is the best at what he does and your family will benefit from his help no matter what age and stage you are at.
— Fabiana Murray
James played a significant role helping me establish effective strategies to parent my two daughters. As a single parent the hands-on parenting skills and techniques made a dramatic difference in my family.
— J. Lally
When dealing with a moody & sometimes disrespectful 14 year old teenager, I was of the belief my daughter needed to change her attitude first with my old school ideology of “parents should be respected.”  I was very rigid on my thought process. This approach led to a power struggle between the two of us, which nobody won.  It did however upset the balance of our family leading to a never ending cycle of disagreements and tension.  James’s approach of relationship building, family structure and pre-determined discipline improved our relationship significantly and gave us the breakthrough we needed.
— Tadhg H.
I had the pleasure of working with James as a parent coach and in a discussion group he lead to get feedback on the parenting book he is writing.  I found all the information and suggestions he provided very grounded and relevant.  They were immediately helpful to my needs and those of my children. I am truly enjoying my four kids even though they are very active!  I continue to deepen my understanding of what I learned from James, and value and utilize his suggestions.
— Veronica Hunter
I found Mr. Shaver’s parenting workshop to be so insightful and encouraging.  As a mother of 3 children, ages 12, 9, and 7; I found that the material covered a wide range for developmental age and his recommendations are easily tailored to suit the individual child.  He presented his material with an ease and humor which set the tone for the entire workshop. . . Something I would recommend for all parents to attend.
— Catherine M.
My wife and I were feeling a little overwhelmed. We have a growing family. James showed us how to push the responsibility back to our children and keep it there where it belongs. That saved us from so much conflict and grief once we got the hang of it. That alone was more than worth it, but our success with that led to other positive changes as well. We no longer fall into an us-versus-them mindset. We are all on the same team now. Everything is more pleasant and enjoyable, especially our most challenging child.
— David M.
We found James during a very pivotal time parenting our teenagers.  Typical teenage behavior and two parents who disagreed led to hurt feelings, misguided and severe consequences, anxiety, and a lot of chaos. James helped us come up with a family plan based on respecting each other. He showed us how to present clear and logical consequences for inappropriate behaviors.  He helped my husband and I get on the same page. James had a profound impact on our family and helped us shift into a more productive and healthy household. We will forever be grateful for his kind, gentle manner and guidance.
— Nina Healy
We wanted to restore some harmony and fun in our house, as somewhere along the way, things had devolved into lots of tantrums, crying, and obstinance. James listened, helped us pinpoint some specific issues to work on and gave us lots of practical advice to put into use. James’s approach is heartfelt and he layers in lots of helpful perspective. We’re all on the same team again and it feels great to delight in our young kids rather than live in dread of the next tantrum.
— B&C
I really can’t thank you enough for your help in getting us to a better place. Meeting one on one with you was so helpful. Our family is back on track and things are going great!
— Katie Knapp